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Drive 5 journeys round the M25 #101in1001 #12

Drive 5 journeys round the M25 #101in1001

I started writing a post about this one quite a while ago and it ended up getting a bit too deep and probably went into a few things I wasn’t ready to publish on my blog. So it is still just sat in my drafts, maybe that is a post that will come later on down the line, explaining this one in a bit more detail the real reasons behind why I put this on my list.

And that is a question that when I was making my list with Sam. We were at her house when we were writing our lists and we were trying to think of the last few so we were reading out our lists to each other to try to find some ideas and see if there were any we wanted to add to our lists. Sam’s husband said to me when I read out drive 5 journeys around the M25 “why on earth would you put that as a list of things you really wanted to do?”

When I wrote my list back in October 2017, I decided that if I could complete this one challenge, it would actually be one of the biggest achievements that I will be able to tick off on my list. And the brief explanation for that is that about 6/7 years ago I lost my confidence in driving.

I don’t think I’ve ever been a super-duper confident driver, but you know I could do it, and I did journeys up to Yorkshire on my own. Didn’t bother me at all. But yeah, for one reason or another, that I won’t go into in this post, I lost my confidence in driving. It got to the point where even thinking about getting in a car to drive gave me massive, massive anxiety attack. It actually to the point where my ex-boss actually sent me for counselling because Chris was going away quite often with work which meant I had to drive into work and I would come in in a mess, and as it was coming near to home time I would get myself worked up again. So she sent me for counselling.

I mean, I’m entirely sure that it helped. It got me some time out of the office, which I think was always greatly received. Me and my ex-boss (well, she was my boss at the time) came to an agreement that when Chris was away I would start work early and leave early so that I could miss as much traffic as possible, so it was slightly less stressful for me. We sat and planned my routes together so there was as little traffic as possible, going on smaller roads rather than having to go on the motorway or the big busy A roads. It wasn’t a fun time for me at all really.

In the end, I think the thing that got me driving again was having Isla. We live in a fairly small village with crap public transport, so I needed to drive. I could not stay cooped up in our village forever while on maternity leave, so I just had to drive. It took me probably took me a few months probably after Isla was born to really start doing it regularly. Now I’m fairly confident driving around our area, or nipping over to people’s houses which is a 25-30 minute drive away, and I’m mostly comfortable with that.

So I decided I needed to push myself and challenge myself, so I put drive 5 journeys round the M25 on my list of 101 things to complete in 1001 days.

Drive 5 journeys round the M25 #101in1001 #12

And I did it!

They weren’t all really long journeys. But at least one or two of them were there probably pretty much half way round the M25, and they were both on Friday night so traffic was horrific. Although that might have been good actually, as it meant that people weren’t speeding so we were crawling for a lot of it. But I did it.

I did a couple of other journeys probably about a quarter of the way round, usually to visit family so yeah these are the dates that I did it I’m where I drove to

9th February 2018 – Broadstairs – 125 miles total journey
17th February 2018 – Crowborough – 75 miles total journey
28th April 2018 (x2) – Bocketts Farm, Fetcham (45 miles each way)
8th June 2018 – Broadstairs – 125 miles total journey

I’ll admit that I haven’t really done many journeys since, but at least I know I can do them. Chris also appreciates, especially now I’m pregnant and not drinking, that I can (and will) now drive home after we’ve been to the pub with friends so that he can have more than one pint!

So that is another one ticked off my list, drive 5 journeys around the M25.

Check out my whole list on this post. If you’d like to see how I’m progressing with all my other tasks, then have a look at my list on the Day Zero Project site

Drive 5 journeys round the M25 #101in1001

2 Comments

  1. Jayne Townson

    January 16, 2019 at 8:38 am

    You pushed yourself and you did it, well done! p.s you’re braver than me, I’ve never managed to push myself to drive on any motorway yet

  2. Helen - from Mummy to Mum

    January 16, 2019 at 10:55 am

    It’s fantastic that you have been able to do this! Anxiety is no easy feat but you accomplished it and the motorways aren’t the nicest of roads. Well done!

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